This thing has been on for about a year now. However, it traced way back to two years ago, when I first joined the church. Obviously, I wasn't involved initially. As things started to progress, I can't help but get involved in it, since we were close at that time.
My first encounter with Aixin was a pleasant one. It all started with "Rio", the movie. We went to watch it after church service at Tiong Bahru opened a new chapter of our friendship. In many ways she is similar to me: she was teased, possibly bullied, in one way or another. Oh well, I've been bullied or tugged around like some pest for most of my life. Should I just say my friendship with others was superficial and was always considered low-rated to my friends. Unfortunately, I wasn't as fortunate as her. She still have friends who care for her since young. For me, I've decided to give them up because it had been miserable being with friends who backstabbed me at work, find me only when they need me, and had been bad-influence to me. Unfortunately for her friends, she did not seem to cherish; or rather, her actions don't indicate that she does. What hurts most is her comments in her Facebook which is free for all to see:
Not I don't cherish our friendship but i have feel that we been friends since childhood, friends around us did bother to show their care and approach to
find out what happens between us, you say u cares but i have waited for you to come find me though i say will find you but so long i never find you, you don't even have the initiative to look for me, you have looks for me because you are just concerns about things relates to your wedding , if not, i feel you don't even cares
find out what happens between us, you say u cares but i have waited for you to come find me though i say will find you but so long i never find you, you don't even have the initiative to look for me, you have looks for me because you are just concerns about things relates to your wedding , if not, i feel you don't even cares
We have been praying for her. The reason why we don't want Shirlyn to approach her because she was the one who started the comments and she should clear it. Shirlyn should not approach her because she was not the one who starts the incident and hence should not be the one initiating the reconciliation. Even if she did approach her, so what? She doesn't even bother to reply a single message to her who wishes to reconcile with her.
It hurts most when I hear the pleas from David and Shirlyn. They were so frustrated until they really want to cry - not because she doesn't want to listen but because they couldn't help her. How did she get all these thoughts into her head? Her encounter keeps reminding the darkness I was trapped into. That decade of darkness overwhelms me. There are times I hear myself crying to God saying, "please LORD, don't let her go there. It's painful to even think back about it, much less go through it."
It is cruel to think this way, but if she continues posting such comments, I agree that David should give it to church authority to handle it, which is based on Matthew 18: 15-17. It's too much for us to handle. We love her as sister-in-Christ. I do, so much as to cry for her. Right now, Shirlyn and David has been guarding their hearts from anything from her, who is too consumed in her pain. Please pray for her, whoever-is-reading-this.
Matthew 18:15-17
New International Version (NIV)
Dealing With Sin in the Church15 “If your brother or sister[a] sins,[b] go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.
16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’[c]
17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.
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